How hugs can help your children

“We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” 

-Virginia Satir

Hugs are important!

A hug is magical. A hug can do wonders for your growing child. Remember the right dosage?

Yes, your child needs 12 hugs a day to grow into a secure individual, bubbling with confidence and self-assurance.

A hug says—”I care for you. You are my piece of heart and I will be always there for you.” Can you imagine saying this repeatedly to your child? No? A hug makes your life simpler.

Have you hugged your child today? In today’s swift-paced life, we have forgotten the need and effect of small gestures. As parents, it’s much easier to express anger than love.

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If our child misbehaves or does anything wrong, we promptly correct him/her or show displeasure. However, when it comes to showering unconditional love to children, we become the ‘busy-parent’ juggling innumerable tasks at hand.

How many times in a day do you actually give your child a bear hug? Are you wondering “Where is the time?” Well, where there is will, there is a way. Time to make hugging your child a daily ritual—the more the hugs, the better. How about starting the day with a hug and having the bedtime with a hug?

It may appear to be a simple gesture and you may wonder what’s the big deal? It makes a huge difference! A hug is miraculous for your growing child; it says you love your child wholeheartedly and unconditionally.

How to hug your child?

Hold him/her close to your heart for a few moments so he/she feels your love without you having to say a word! Open your arms wide and put on an inviting smile. Give them a tight bear hug with maximum touch.

Voilà! Needless to say, the touch, the warmth, and the unadulterated affection are all they need to blossom into secure and confident individuals with high self-worth.

7 Reasons why hugging your child is important:

1) “Everybody loves a hug. Hugging can do wonders for a relationship. Watch your bond with your children strengthen as your hugs. There is no age bar for hugs, one must hug their infants, toddlers, teenagers, and even married kids, why not?” says Pooja N, a relationship counsellor.

2) Studies have proved that human touch heals and increases one’s lifespan.

3) Parent’s touch is essential for human growth and development. Babies who get massaged by their parents are generally the lucky ones who can adapt to this big bad world smilingly and feeling secure.

4) Hugging is healthy for the body, mind, and soul.

5) Hugging boosts self-esteem and brings about a sense of security in a way no language can.

6) It’s natural. Physical contact makes us feel loved, is comforting, wipes our worries away, and strengthens our bond.

7) An atmosphere where hugs are common makes you (read parents) approachable and empathetic.

7 Tips for parents:

1) Say good morning with a hug.

2) Say good night with a hug and kiss.

3) Praise your child with a hug and a pat.

4) Say thanks with a hug.

5) When you ask for any help or favour, give them a hug for being the ‘good’ person.

6) A hug is the best cure when they are exhausted or upset.

7) Hugs can help them come out of a difficult situation like bullying, ill-health, or failure.

CAUTION: You can never hug your children too much!

Image Credits : Still VisionSubharnab Majumdar

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Ekta Sharma Bhatnagar is a writer, dreamer, and a neat-freak mom constantly trying to keep pace with her fast-growing, tech-addict kids. A proud mother of two, she is a seasoned media professional and a self-confessed Bollywood buff. Ekta has written extensively on Entertainment, Careers, Lifestyle, Interiors, and Parenting for, Education Times, Economic Times, Mumbai Mirror, Times Property, other publications and corporate websites. Follow on Twitter @ektabhatnagar

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