10 Tips To Select The Perfect Preschool For Your Child

“Who is your child?” I thought Shikha didn’t recognise my son when she said this in the middle of our conversation.

Shikha is a homemaker who has changed three schools to choose the one she thinks suits her children just fine.

To an outsider, her decisions could come across as an outcome of an indecisive mind—the decisions of those parents who are just too choosy, hesitant, and finicky when it comes to choosing a school.

However, if you probe deeper, the reasons to choose ‘THE’ perfect preschool are important.

Here’s why

A playschool is not just the first step of your precious child outside home but it’s also the first platform for learning.

As per Shikha, parents should not miss asking themselves the following question and then be answering it honestly. Who is your child in terms of his/her personality? The answer to this question will lead you to the right school for your child.

10 Things To Consider That Will Help You Select The Perfect Preschool For Your Child

1) Budget

Well, this is the easiest one. You need to shortlist a list of preschools that fit into your budget before you start looking at other finer details.

What’s the point of liking everything about a school and then giving it up because of the cost? Therefore, get the list of affordable preschools ready and then move on to the other nine points.

Selecting the Perfect Preschool - Know Your Child2) Know your Child!

“I pulled him out just six months down the line,” says Dipika. Her younger son had started attending a certain Mumbai-based playschool that believes in extensive writing and learning.

Dipika’s son is a dreamer–creative and intuitive.

The school didn’t work for him and neither did the teachers show much appreciation for his growth.

“Moving to this school was the best decision we made. At three, my son is happy to go to school.

Thankfully, there is nothing wrong with him, he just needed a different approach,” says Dipika about the present school her child attends.

School vs child

The approach of a school is its perspective or method towards teaching and learning. You need to check whether that approach matches with your child’s needs as seen around 1-1.5 years of age, and not as per what you want your child’s personality to be.

Yes, children are too young to choose but still, the choice should not be based just on what you like or want.

Any expert views?

Thomas and Chess at Colorado University have come up with a detailed study on infant personalities leading up to 10 years of age.

A brief run through of their research will tell you about the ‘personality of your baby,’ ‘temperament dimensions,’ and the interrelationship between temperament and personality.

Table 10.2 (on page 2) is something you can focus on—it compares details such as span of attention, moods, and reactions of children at different ages to help parents assess their child’s psychological temperament.

Keeping your child’s temperament in mind is important while choosing a play school.

Don’t forget this detail!

3) Know the approach

Logically, the next important step in understanding your child’s learning needs is the assessment of the approach of teaching that the preschool follows.

Be mindful that this approach is not that of the individual teachers but the overall belief system within the school. Curriculum form just a part of this.

Selecting The Perfect Preschool MethodologyDifferent approaches

The following are a few of the main methods of teaching followed in India. Most playschools use one or a combination of any of these methodologies.

  • The Montessori Method

According to Wikipedia, “Montessori education is characterized by an emphasis on independence, freedom within limits, and respect for a child’s natural psychological, physical, and social development.”

In simple terms, this method focuses on the individuality of each child and lets every child follow his/her own pace of learning. In this format, there is no comparison between children of the same ages.

  • The Reggio Emilia Approach

This approach is used in mostly all preschools. However, it is mixed with one or two other forms of instruction. The idea behind this approach is to teach children to discover themselves through symbolic ideas.

These ideas are developed through painting, sculpting, and dramatising. Basically, it is an approach based on exploration and ideation.

Such schools are deeply involved in observing, touching, free play, art and drama.

  • The HighScope Approach

Under this approach, teachers do not teach but only assist children in learning. In other words, teachers help children make their own plan for the day.

Sessions on what children would like to discuss or do during the day are conducted where the idea of every child is given its due. Basically, in this format, the kids are in-charge.

  • The Waldorf Approach

This approach is also called the Steiner approach based on Steiner’s views on stages of development.

Waldorf believes that merely reading and learning through rote is not the true way to develop–imagination and analytical thinking should be cultivated and encouraged in each child.

The concept of ‘circle time,’ where children sitting together in groups to chant rhymes and learning together is widely used in this approach.

Many playschools use one or the other tenets of this theory in their approach to teaching. So go ahead, choose your approach!

4) Emotional Guidance

“She made him understand her instructions in Tamil.” Pratibha is a financial planner with a leading bank and her parents help her bring up her two-year-old.

She is recounting an incident about her child who only speaks Tamil at home since his grandparents do not speak any other language with him.

“In the early days, guiding his behaviour in school was getting difficult because he would not respond. He was getting into a shell.

So the teacher tried explaining things in Tamil for a bit,” explains Pratibha. Language barriers aside, toddlers and preschoolers need an environment in school where their physical, as well as emotional needs, are met.

Preschools are as much about relationships as they are about learning the basics of ABC.

Meet every child’s emotional needs

In Pratibha’s case, her child’s needs were fulfilled by using the language he was comfortable with.

Flexibility of approach within a preschool is paramount. In fact, preschoolers approach their teachers as they would approach their mothers so the level of emotional and behavioural guidance within school should be high.

Experts say

In the book, Behavior Guidance for Infants and Toddlers, the authors have mentioned a concept of pro-social play.

This is nothing but playtime directed at making the child more in touch with his/her soft skills–skills of group play, co-operation, calmness, and kindness.

Nap Time Is Essential5) All work and no nap!

“Nap time!” This is a playgroup teacher’s worried response at a recent kid’s carnival at my son’s preschool. The playgroup children (1.5 to 2 year olds), were seen crying incessantly.

The timings for the carnival were 4 PM onwards and upon asking why their kids were wailing, we were simply given the above two-worded response.

I asked the playgroup teacher and she said that changing the routine of the child is difficult for the child as well as for the parent.

So, one should stick to routine. Shouldn’t that make sense while choosing a playschool as well?

Time and schedule

The timings of a playschool matter the most, at least during the initial days of school.

Proper school timings set the routine for the entire day of your child. You are then able to comfortably plan his/her eating and napping schedules accordingly.

  • Preschools, unlike primary and senior schools, should not start at the crack of dawn. Preschoolers need more time to get ready, eat, and leave the house.
  • Preschools should also not start very late in the day as that sets a bad body clock for the coming years of school.
  • The timings of the playschool should match with your work timings and your overall schedule.

In short, it’s a balancing act between your and your child’s schedules.

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6) Location

Imagine driving a couple of hours every day to ferry your child to and from the playschool. It’s not only stressful for you but also for your little one.

In fact, children start getting averse to the very idea of school if reaching it is tiring for them. Hence, the location makes a very important point to consider while choosing a preschool for your child.

7) Cleanliness matters!

Usko potty nahi hota tha!” (He suffered from constipation!)

This is Sudha, two-and-a-half-year-old Veer’s nanny. I knew that Veer had recently shifted schools but wasn’t aware that a dirty washroom was the reason.

It is then I made a mental note to include the point of cleanliness and health in this list.

Children should be provided with a neat and clean environment in the playschool that you choose so that their health does not suffer.

Since it’s an understood point already, let’s just close with the adages that health is wealth and cleanliness is godliness!

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8) Safety

Isn’t this an understood point again? Adding it here just as a reminder for all parents to have a ready checklist to refer to.

Safety within the school premises, and in the way kids are dispersed from the school forms a key point to consider while choosing a preschool.

Most schools share the measures they take for safety with parents during admission meetings. However, I suggest that you should not buy their word and do your own reference check.

The best thing is to talk to parents whose kids are already studying in the school and understand whether the school keeps its promised measures in place or not.

If you get positive responses, go ahead with the school!

Selecting the Perfect Preschool - Involving Parents9) May I come in?

Well, don’t get confused by the heading since I’m not talking about manners here. It’s about how open the school is in letting parents get involved with their processes. For preschoolers, it’s paramount that the school involves parents at every step of the way.

A preschool exposure is more about skills and personality development than about academics for your child. This is the reason why you should check whether the preschool that you are considering allows your voice and views or not.

Openness and interaction between parents and the school are very important at this nascent stage of your child’s development and therefore, do remember to tick this point off your list.

10) Accreditation

Nahi, that’s ICSE and I want CBSE board.” I heard a group of moms discussing schools as I walked past them in the park the other day.

My eavesdropping informed me that they were discussing the board of education that each school in their vicinity follows.

Since a playschool is a stepping stone for their child’s higher education, parents must consider the board or institution that the school is accredited to.

In India, ICSE, CBSE, IGCSE, IB, and the individual state boards are most common among others. While considering a preschool, you might want to compare the respective board or institution that the school follows.

What next?

So, you’ve done your research, you’ve made a list, and you’ve even shortlisted a preschool but are still not sure.

Don’t fret!

Welcome to the world of schooling where till the time your child leaves school and steps into college, you’ll perpetually doubt your decisions.

Nothing is ever perfect enough for our perfect children, isn’t it?

So, what are the points for choosing the perfect preschool in your checklist? Share a few of them with us.

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Mother to a five-year-old, Amrita Minocha is essentially a teacher. She teaches GRE/GMAT/IELTS verbal courses, English as a second language (TESOL), and Yoga! An MBA in HR, she enjoys juggling between diverse roles. A hardcore bookworm who aims to pen a book someday, she currently writes GRE verbal samples, activity books for kids, and actively blogs on the Flintobox blog.


  • vinay

    June 16, 2020 - 4:12 pm

    I concur with your point that picking the preschool that is a solid match for your kid is somewhat overpowering and we ought not disregard the instructive way of thinking of the preschool. Each parent has an alternate arrangement of desires from their little one’s preschool so discover one that suits your family best.

  • Sarah

    January 3, 2020 - 4:55 pm

    I agree with your point that choosing the preschool that is a good fit for your child is a bit overwhelming and we should not ignore the educational philosophy of the preschool. Every parent has a different set of expectations from their little one’s preschool so find one that suits your family best.

  • Sanjana panda

    June 20, 2019 - 11:56 am

    Preschool is a most important in today life its help to us carying the child . Thanks fore Sharing this information.

  • Nandita paul

    June 20, 2019 - 11:52 am

    Amazing article its easily clear how to chose a preschool.i like this post.

  • Sandra Patterson

    May 7, 2019 - 11:48 pm

    I like your suggestion to do your own reference check when looking at the safety of a preschool. My son just turned 4, and I have been looking for a preschool to send him to for next year that will really be a good fit for him. I will be sure to follow your tips, especially finding a good location!

  • Lil

    March 13, 2019 - 1:38 pm

    Thanks for the information…

  • Lil

    February 26, 2019 - 2:36 pm

    Thanks for sharing these important tips on preschool.

  • Jyeshta

    December 12, 2018 - 6:23 pm

    That was a g8 points. Thanks

    • Gayathri G

      December 17, 2018 - 9:41 am

      Thank you, Jyeshta 🙂

  • Pratishtha Shukla

    December 4, 2018 - 7:11 pm

    Hey Amrita,
    Thanks for sharing these awesome tips on preschool.

  • Saurabh Das

    August 21, 2018 - 2:35 pm

    I have seen most new parents face this challenging stage in life where they have to find a good nursery for their little one. Blogs like this one are sure a great help. Thank you for sharing this elaborate post. I liked all the points you have shared here. They are quite useful.

    • Gayathri G

      August 22, 2018 - 9:01 am

      Thank you very much, Saurabh 🙂

  • nishank

    July 24, 2018 - 2:15 pm

    Thank you very much for this article about how to select a good preschool. It’s a nice article you wrote and it is very helpful

  • Sharon Wilson Smith

    December 9, 2017 - 10:12 am

    I like that you talked about the importance of considering the school’s location because it can be stressful for you and for your child to drive long hours to and from the preschool. My husband and I decided to enroll our daughter in preschool by next school year, and it’s important for us to keep the excitement of our child in going to school everyday. For me, the location will play a big part in my child’s interest to attend her classes. I will make sure to consider all your tips.

  • Amanda Drew

    December 6, 2017 - 2:14 am

    I think that you make a good point that talking to parents about the security of that preschool is a great idea. My oldest daughter is just about old enough to start pre-k4 classes, and I want to make sure that she gets into a good school. I’ll have to ask around and find a good preschool for her.

  • Scott Adams

    November 21, 2017 - 3:29 am

    I hadn’t thought about choosing a school that is close by, so my kids don’t get tired on the way there. I have been looking for a preschool to enroll my son in. I can see how it would be nice to choose something close to where we live. That way it’s less likely my son will be late to class.

  • Sariah Meagle

    November 15, 2017 - 2:17 am

    Thanks for helping me learn more about preschool services, I agree that upon choosing we must know the approach that they implement in their facilities. I did not took into account that there are actually different types of approach that we should consider checking. Moreover, whatever the approach a curriculum offers, you must still be mindful if that will benefit your child or if it will be suited to your child’s personality or needs. In my case, I want my child to improve her attitude by building her confidence, so the Montessori Method will be perfect for her since they promote the emphasis on independence, respect and freedom within limits.

  • Hetal Patel

    July 6, 2017 - 10:54 am

    Really, choosing the right preschool for the child is not that easy task. I was very confused while selecting preschool for my child as there were so many options available. You have nicely explained the points for choosing the right preschool. Thanks for sharing such valuable information. I’m sure, this is very helpful for all those parents who need to choose the right preschool for their children.

  • Ashwini

    January 27, 2017 - 12:48 pm

    we have decided to admit our child in a Montessori from pre nursery to upper kinder garden (4 years). With this being the case, can she get into any school (ICSE/CBSE/IGCSE,etc.) for 1st standard?

  • Gina Henrie

    November 22, 2016 - 8:49 pm

    My daughter is at the age where she is old enough to start attending preschool, and so my husband and I are trying to find one for her to go to. I agree that it is a good idea to make a list of the preschools that fit into our budget first, and then look at the other details from there. I am excited to find her one and hopefully get her started soon! She can’t wait.

  • Elsa Anderson

    November 19, 2016 - 2:09 am

    My oldest is reaching the age where he can start preschool and I’m excited for him to start learning! I want a preschool that encourages him to explore and ask and questions. That’s why I really appreciate your tip about looking at the methods of teaching that a preschool uses so you know what learning environment your child will be in every day.

  • Jade Brunet

    October 26, 2016 - 4:58 am

    Thank you for this article about how to select a good preschool. It is good to know that safety is a concern. It is a good idea to visit the facility to see how you feel and notice if the premises is secure and well protected. Something else to consider would be to find a local preschool to save time with the commute.

  • Kate Hansen

    October 20, 2016 - 7:51 pm

    My daughter is the age where she should be starting preschool. I’d like to enroll her, but I am so overwhelmed by how many options there are when it comes to local preschools. I appreciate your tip about considering the different approaches that each preschool takes. I’ve heard good things about the Montessori Method that you mention, so maybe that’s something that I should do more research on before enrolling her. Thanks!

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