As parents, we all want our children to be good. Parents have a huge responsibility of bringing up their kids in the best possible way. But what is good parenting? Good parenting happens when a parent creates a stable, nurturing home environment, is a positive role model, and plays an active part in a child’s life.
Good parenting is accepting the responsibility for the total development of the child, providing moral support and spiritual guidance, and guiding him/her through open communication and mutual respect. Responsible parents instil good values, set limits, and influence a child’s behaviour in a positive manner. Are you in game to be a good parent?
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Here are 5 golden parenting rules every parent must follow:
1) Spend quality time with kids
The best thing you can give your children is your time. Be there for them. No matter how busy you and your children are, take time out to be together to ‘communicate.’ Create a greater understanding and togetherness. Play games, have fun, plan and do things together. Make sure you instil good habits and integrity while spending time together.
2) Shower unconditional love
Your love and warmth is the basic ingredient for your kids’ well-being and happiness. The more children feel loved by you, the more they will listen to you and learn. Give your child unconditional love before you teach them worldly ways. Give it with your hugs, kisses, and words. Studies reveal a child needs 12 hugs a day! Yes, you read it right.
3) Spare the rod
Avoid physical force, no matter what. Times have changed and studies reveal that spanking or slapping has a negative impact on a child’s development and self-esteem. Sometimes kids get out of control, and understandably, parents tend to lose their temper and raise a hand to discipline kids. It may help parents temporarily to vent their anger, but not only does it leave your child with bitter memories for a lifetime, it teaches them to resort to violence when they get angry. So do whatever you need to do to control yourself, but never resort to physical force. Hitting is never okay, never!
4) Keep promises
Always keep the promises you make to your child. This way you are teaching your little one to be responsible and proficient. Never say things which you can’t do for him/her. If you keep saying things which you never do, your kids will never listen or take you seriously. If you goof up, apologise and do it without fail the next time. Why promise things you can’t do for them?
5) Be a role model
Discipline your child by being a role model and good influence. If you want your child to pick up good manners; value time and money; be polite, responsible, courteous, truthful and calm; follow rules, be reasonable; and never let you down; be good yourself. Children are a reflection of parents and what they see around. If we want to change our reflections, we have to change ourselves. So do your best as kids are watching you and model on you in ways more than one. Start today!
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